The argument really began to take effect when they emphasized the different war metaphors we're constantly using when discussing arguing:
Your claims are indefensible.Seeing it so blatantly put out like that? It's a little off-putting; we seem so dramatic when we employ
He attacked every weak point in my argument.
His criticisms were right on target.
I demolished his argument.
I've never won an argument with him.
(had to!) metaphors like this but they come out so naturally, so easily. And then, when he asks us to think of a world where arguments are not seen as war but as a dance? It seems so strange; an argument is an attack, a fight, a battle where we are meant to take sides and argue until your opponent either gives up, takes another offensive/defensive, or comes over to your side. To think of arguments as a dance seems strange and wrong because dance is beautiful and artistic while war is rough and cruel, the way arguments are.
Which drives home the point that we're constantly being shaped by our culture; we're unaware of our "conceptual system" but it's so important, so fundamental to our understanding of the world. We are almost intrinsically metaphorical, using them without even so much as a thought on how they're shaping our language, our perceptions our meanings. If we weren't taught to think of arguments as a war, thinking of it like a dance wouldn't be so strange. And if you think about it, it is like a dance with the give and take, dancing around your argument.
I just think to see language so fantastically crafted is amazing and...cool, for lack of a better word. Am I the only one?